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Our aim is to inspire and motivate people using a variety of methods. The main purpose is to give people the confidence to realize their potential.

Team Building Events

We offer team building events - from kids to corporate. 

Team building is the process of causing a group of people to work together effectively, especially by means of activities and events designed to increase motivation and promote cooperation.

People are the heart of every company, group, team or organization and investing in team building exercises enhances their roles and connections. It builds trust, mitigates conflict, encourages communication, and increases collaboration.

These events can include many different things such as games, puzzles, questionnaires, activities and adventure activities with fun themes such as survivor or minute to win it and so much more... Setting an environment for the group to interact and learn in a fun way. These programmes provide realistic experiences that empower individuals to contribute to common goals.

Benefits of Team Building:

  • Increase productivity. The collaborative nature of a team building challenge teaches people how to work together more effectively.
  • Improve communication. Clear and open communication is key to the success of projects and relationships within a group or company.
  • Creates a platform for people to get some insight into others' way of thinking and motivations.
  • Get to know yourself and others strengths, weaknesses and interests better.
  • Keep people motivated.
  • Learn life skills.
  • Develop problem-solving skills.

What can be achieved with Team Building?

These activities can achieve outcomes such as focus, improving accuracy, reaching goals, goal orientation, teamwork, communication, leadership, cooperation, goal setting, creative thinking, decision making, problem-solving, resilience, time management and trust.

The where, how & how long of Team Building events:

These events can be hosted indoors or outdoors. Depending on the group size, these programs can be presented on location or at Just Africa Life Skills. Outdoors in a park or on the beach is also a great option if the weather permits. We have a rustic adventure campsite which is great for day or weekend team building camps.

The duration of an event can be from a few hours to a day, to a whole weekend camp.

CONTACT US for more info or to book an event.

Life Skills Courses

Here is a list of the Life Skills courses we offer with a short description of each course. Should you require more information on a specific course please contact us.

These courses can be topics for leadership or school camps or any teambuilding activities. Life skills day camps or weekend getaways can be arranged on request.

These courses can be adapted to the particular age/s of a specific group and group dynamics and are therefore suitable for all ages.

Contact us for a tailor-made package for your school, institution, company, family or for an individual.

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1. Personal Finance

  • Budgeting
  • Banking
  • Insurance
  • Investments
  • Savings & Goals
  • Basic skills & confidence in money management

Personal finance is the financial management which an individual or a family unit performs to budget, save, and spend monetary resources over time, taking into account various financial risks and future life events.

2. Study Methods

  • Study Counselling
  • Study Techniques
  • Guidance in Setting Goals
  • Guidance in Structure

Practical help and guidelines for productive study for your child.

3. Growth Mindset

Our intelligence and talents are not fixed traits. Our most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work – brains and talent are just the starting point. A growth mindset creates a love of learning and resilience.

  • Belief systems
  • Mindsets, where do they come from?
  • Individuality
  • Changing your mindset
  • Goals & endless possibilities

4. Setting Healthy Habits

  • Know your habits
  • Make a plan
  • The habit loop

A healthy habit is any behaviour that benefits your physical, mental, and emotional health. These habits improve your overall well-being and make you feel good. Healthy habits are hard to develop and often require changing your mindset.

5. Self-Esteem & Self-Awareness

  • Understanding your emotions
  • Coping with your emotions
  • Being able to view yourself: thoughts, beliefs & behaviours
  • Gaining objectivity

Self-Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self-Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.

6. Social Skills

  • Ways we interact with others
  • Understanding and reading social cues
  • Good social skills help us to become confident and independent

Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language and our personal appearance.

7. Stress Management

  • Techniques to reduce stress
  • Regain control of your life
  • Satisfaction and contentment

Stress management is a set of techniques and programs intended to help people deal more effectively with stress in their lives by analysing the specific stressors and taking positive actions to minimize their effects.

8. Healthy Boundaries

  • What are personal boundaries?
  • Name your limits
  • Giving permission
  • Self-awareness

Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.

9. Appearance & Character

  • Making an impression
  • Impact of appearance
  • Self-awareness
  • What you want to convey & how

Appearance is important to gain respect and build self-confidence.
Our character is who we are and what we do. It is important that we have a foundation of strong character.

10. Communication & Conflict

  • Types of communication
  • How do I communicate?
  • Bringing your message cross
  • Conflict cures
  • Emotional intelligence

Effective communication serves a key role in successfully resolving conflict. Communication skills are important to living a happy and prosperous life.

11. Emotional Intelligence & Attitude

  • Learn to be aware of, control, and express your emotions, and how to handle interpersonal relationships.

The skills that make up emotional intelligence can be learned at any time. The key skills for building your EQ and improving your ability to manage emotions and connect with others are: Self-management. Self-awareness. Social awareness.

An attitude refers to a set of emotions, beliefs, and behaviours toward a particular object, person, thing. Attitudes have a powerful influence on our behaviour.

12. Time Management & Productivity

Time management is the process of planning and controlling how much time to spend on specific activities. Good time management allows you to accomplish more in a shorter period of time. Being productive lowers your stress, and helps you focus.

We all have very busy lifestyles and everyone can benefit from these practical tips on how to plan your day, studies, work, projects etc.

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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
— George Bernard Shaw

 

  • The Life Skills Courses are flexible to accommodate scheduling and training needs.

  • The courses can be done on location or at the Just Africa Life Skills premises in Gordon’s Bay.

  • Individual or group sessions are available.

  • All courses are supported by self-study materials.

  • Courses can be presented at day or weekend camps.

Course Prices

The course prices will vary greatly according to your specific needs such as group size or individual coaching sessions, venue and if you want to combine course topics or focus on one course.

Please contact us for a quote.

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Why Therapy Doesn’t Work

Inevitably a client who enters into therapy is dealing with pain. This pain can either be buried, in progress, or somewhere in-between.”

The yellow jacket nest that I mowed over was not forgiving. After trying to carefully manicure the grass around my little rock garden, I made the mistake of bumping one of the rocks with my pushmower, exposing the unseen entrance to the nest and mowing over the top.

I was quickly assaulted. Yellow jackets latched onto my feet, legs, and hands. The pure shock of seeing so many yellow jackets on my body created a delay for the inevitable pain that would set in.

I quickly ran into my home, yellow jackets circling me, with some of their family stuck to me still. Having never been stung before and with a family history of bee allergies, panic ensued.

What-ifs began to cause quite a bit of mental anguish, not to mention the physical pain of over a dozen yellow jacket stings reminding me of what just happened. I called my husband in a panic, unable to keep very level-headed.

Therapy for some people is like running over the proverbial yellow jacket nest. Inevitably a client who enters into therapy is dealing with pain.

This pain can either be buried, in progress, or somewhere in-between. Burying pain is typically a negative coping mechanism. The idea of having to face the pain is too difficult, and avoiding it seems to be moving past the pain.

But like a small shard of metal stuck under newly grown skin, pain festers. It manifests in irritability, anger, resentment, and sadness. For some people, they feel that their lives are no longer functioning in an acceptable way. This is when some decide to start therapy.

‘Therapy should fix things, right? My therapist will make this better, won’t he?’ No. This type of thinking will undermine therapy, and the client will leave feeling more defeated.

For therapy to work, it is very important that the client understand a few things first.

1.) A client is responsible for working on his issues. The therapist does not do the work for him. Yes, the therapist helps, but the therapist is not responsible for the work a client has to put in himself.

2.) Therapy is not magic. Therapy cannot be equated to a shot of anti-venom after a poisonous snakebite. It does not save a person’s life. It can help to develop insight and grow a person’s coping toolbox, which is life-changing, but it is not something that magically takes away the pain.

3.) A therapist is not an expert that will turn a client’s life around. The client must accept that only his willingness to make changes in his own life will turn his life around. A client may come to therapy feeling helpless; it is the therapist’s job to put tools in that person’s hand to help him get out of his own problems.

4.) Things can get worse before they get better. Much like having to clean out a wound before it can properly heal, the process of therapy can be painful. Putting newly learned behaviours into action can be difficult and require patience on the part of the client.

5.) Clients MUST do their homework. ‘What? There’s homework in therapy?’ Therapy is a healing process. When someone goes to the doctor for a leg injury, the doctor provides a treatment plan. It may involve taking an anti-inflammatory a number of times a day, heating and/or icing the injury a certain number of times a day, and suspending use of the injured leg for a certain amount of time. Failing to follow these instructions may very well end in the unsuccessful treatment of the injury. The same concept applies to therapy. Whether in individual or marital therapy, a therapist can provide clients with helpful activities to do outside of the therapy session. These activities aid in building new tools to cope with the issues of life. Not doing these assignments causes therapy to fail.

6.) Therapy unearths some unpleasant stuff. If a client has spent years avoiding pain, he will more than likely try to avoid the pain in therapy too. A therapist’s job oftentimes is to help a person see how their negative thoughts and behaviours may be the result of avoiding pain.

7.) Some days it may feel like there is no energy to cope. Depression, anxiety, and trauma are exhausting. Not putting effort into therapy can very well be like having an “I’ll try to do it tomorrow instead” attitude. Unfortunately, tomorrow becomes the next day, and the next. A therapist should help a client feel more empowered in making healthy choices. A therapist’s job is to help a client see their strengths and what they can do to make their lives better.

How Responsible Is the Therapist for the Client’s Progress?

In essence, a therapist doing all of the work does not improve that person’s life, it creates client dependence on the therapist.”

Notice how much of the above implies the client’s responsibility in changing his life? If a therapist were to do all the work for the client and basically tell the client what to do, the client ultimately loses. The client loses the opportunity to go through the growing process, to learn for himself, and loses agency over his own life.

In essence, a therapist doing all of the work does not improve that person’s life, it creates client dependence on the therapist. A healthy client is one who develops new, healthy habits and does it because he wants to do it, rather than someone who has someone else do it for him.

It took time to heal from my yellow jacket attack. I was red, swollen and throbbed for several days.

After seeing that I was not getting better from the multitude of stings, I chose to get some help. I was prescribed a few medications and received a shot to lower the inflammation. I followed through with them and was better.

Not doing anything about the pain did not seem to help. The “cure” may have seemed to be unpleasant, but the outcome was fully desired. Therapy can be this way too for anyone who is willing to accept personal responsibility, to put in the work, and to have a willingness to change.

by Laura Ketchie

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Managing Emotions for a Happier Life

Would you like your relationships at home, at work, your friendships, parents, teachers etc.… to improve? Here are some practical tips on how to keep track of your own and/or your children’s emotions and how to manage it better to improve family life.

One of the most important skills to develop is good communication. Communication affects every aspect of our lives and with good communication, family life will drastically improve.

In my family, while growing up, we never learned to properly communicate. I had a happy life and my parents were involved and they did their best, but when it came to acknowledging your emotions and talking about feelings, I really don’t have much to refer back to. Especially negative emotions, they were to be buried away. Because both my parents did not like confrontation, they avoided it as much as possible and never spoke up when issues arose but kept it all inside. This is a problem for children because they need to learn by example. I did not see this modelled in my home life and only learned to communicate properly after I got married. I am very fortunate to have a very patient and loving husband, who had parents who did teach him how to communicate, and over the years he taught me.

In this article, I would like to give you some tools on how to start communicating or maybe just sharpening your skills and tips on how to convey this to your children.

Communication starts with the individual

Communication is not a trait that some people possess and others not, there are contributing factors of course, but it can be learned and practised by anyone. It will be easier for some than others, considering different personalities, but it’s something every person should aspire to become better at, as it affects your whole life.

Communicating what you are feeling is a challenge for most people, but it can lead to a very rewarding personal life and relationships.

Understanding Yourself

  • Your relationship with yourself is very important, understanding yourself better will help you to communicate your feelings to those around you in a positive way.
  • You need to be able to identify your emotions by acknowledging and accepting them
  • and giving it a name.

This requires some self-awareness that can be learnt through practice.

Doing an exercise like this can especially be very helpful for teenagers. They are at a stage in their lives where they need to start navigating through a very confusing world of emotions, and this can help them make sense of it and give them the necessary tools to handle it better.

Practical Exercise for the Family

Put a whiteboard up in the house to write on, have everyone write down every morning in their own time and in their own words:

  1. How they are feeling, by writing the name of their emotion down.
  2. Why they are feeling this way.
  3. What they are going to do about it.

We put a board up on the fridge which is marked with every day of the week, here is an example:

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This is just what we found works for us, please be creative and adjust it to your family’s needs.

  • This exercise teaches self-awareness by requiring you to stop and think about how you are feeling and giving that specific emotion a name. It is important to be specific and honest. For this to work, you need to create an emotionally safe space for everyone. Smaller children can also get involved in this exercise, it could be a good idea to put up an emotion chart next to the writing board for them, with examples of different emotions to help them identify their own feelings. There are many such charts available on the internet, make sure that you use an age-appropriate chart.
    emotion chart for kids
  • This exercise also teaches that you are not a victim of your emotions but that you can take control and regulate your emotions by deciding to do what needs to be done so you can feel better or differently. There is no need to have a bad day!

“There is no need to have a bad day!”

  • It will most probably be easier to acknowledge and accept feeling positive emotions like excitement, pride, happiness and joy. Negative emotions will most probably be a bit more difficult to acknowledge and write down to share with everyone. It is okay to feel negative emotions. What is very important is to acknowledge these emotions and to accept that you are feeling them, so that you can express them instead of suppressing them. A suppressed emotion never goes away, even if you don’t think about it, it’s still there and still needs to be dealt with. The sooner the better.

“A suppressed emotion never goes away, even if you don’t think about it, it’s still there...”

  • This allows you as a parent to address certain issues should it be necessary. It can also be a fun discussion in the evenings at dinner, ask everyone how their day went and if they managed to do what they said they wanted to do about their emotion on the board. In so doing we can learn from each other’s experiences and support each other.

  • This also promotes problem-solving skills, finding solutions to problems as soon as they arise, instead of ignoring emotions until they build up and are expressed in explosive ways. There is nothing I hate more than to walk on eggshells around a grumpy person. It is so much better to get things out in the open, talk about it and take the necessary steps in order to move on.

Be supportive and encouraging towards each other and if necessary, help someone else find the name for their emotion if they are struggling. Do not give it to them, rather guide them through the situation they are in with a short conversation or ask some questions and let them find the answer for themselves.

Article by Madelein Wolfaardt (Jan 2019)

Self-image

What is self-image?

It is the picture you have of yourself in your mind. How you show yourself to others and what you think of yourself.

A positive self-image

is the beginning of healthy thoughts. A low self-image makes you feel terrible about yourself, it makes you hypersensitive to the words of those around you which usually grows into people pleasing. A low self-image has great consequences because you become your own worst enemy.

What are your thoughts about yourself?

Who is speaking in your thoughts? Maybe you, or maybe someone from your past whose words still ring in your thoughts. Your thoughts can be either positive or negative.

  • Positive self-talk is encouraging
  • Negative self-talk is critical and destructive – this person needs to challenge the critic inside of them.

Here are a few things you can do to better your self-image:

  • Identify what it is in your life that causes you to have a low self-image. It could also be something in your past.
  • Set a goal for yourself to change your negative self-image to a positive self-image.
  • Work actively towards changing your thoughts about yourself by connecting tasks to it.
  • Set small reachable goals which will be successes every so often, this will boost your confidence and self-image.
  • Develop yourself. Look after your physical wellbeing, focus on positive self-talk, express your emotions by being in contact with them and not afraid of having emotions. Take responsibility for your emotions, this takes courage to do.
  • Care for yourself. See your worth and treat yourself and others with respect. Remind yourself of your strong suits and forgive yourself when you don’t do everything you have planned to do. Take care of yourself even when you don’t feel like you deserve it.
  • Develop a good support basis.
    Find someone that will support you no matter what.
    There must be objectivity and openness.
    This person must confirm your strong suits and encourage you to reach your goals.
    Someone that will listen and be empathetic.
    Someone you can laugh and have fun with.

To develop your self-image, it needs to be an active focus point, daily. Realize that it is within your power to change. You must decide how you feel about yourself, never leave it up to someone else’s opinion.

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Why Life Skills?

Why Life Skills?

In a constantly changing environment, having life skills is an essential part of being able to meet the challenges of everyday life. We help people tap into their full potential and define/achieve their goals for who they want to be and what they want to do.

More about Life Skills

Course Implementation
The sky is the limit!

Course Implementation

These courses make great topics for leadership or school camps or any teambuilding activities, life skills day camps or weekend getaways for corporate groups or couples. The courses can be presented on a weekly basis for a set time or condensed into a one-day course. It is designed to be flexible.
Who can join?
This is for everyone.

Who can join?

Families, couples, children, schools, teams, employees and individuals.

Any person who wishes to improve their lives by doing challenging or worthwhile things will benefit from these courses. Anybody who is interested in personal development, overcoming difficulties or improving relationships.
Course Presentation
Insightful & Fun

Course Presentation

The presentation of the courses is designed to be insightful and fun, making the process of exploring these topics interesting, taking you on a journey to open your mind to new ideas and possibilities. This process can include demonstrations, activities, questionnaires, games, tasks etcetera, making the courses interactive and enjoyable.

List of the Life Skills Courses

We offer a range of Life Skills Courses to address certain problem areas and encourage personal development. Everyone would like to make a success of their lives and we offer tips and advice to get you where you would like to be.
Personal Finance
Take control.
Study Methods
Practical help and guidelines for productive study for your child.
Growth Mindset
A growth mindset creates a love of learning and resilience.
Setting Healthy Habits
Habits are any behaviours that affect your physical, mental, & emotional health.
Self-Awareness
Understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude & your responses.
Social Skills
Good social skills help us to become confident and independent
Stress Management
A set of techniques to help people deal more effectively with stress.
Healthy Boundaries
Setting safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards you.
Appearance & Character
Appearance is important to gain respect and build self-confidence.
Communication
Communication skills are important to living a happy and prosperous life.
Emotional Intelligence
Learn to be aware of, control, and express your emotions.
Time Management
Being productive lowers your stress, and helps you focus.

Children & Family Dynamics

The Life Skills & Coaching Programs is designed to encourage personal development in children, adolescents and adults and at the same time providing an outlet for stress; learning responsibility and the necessary skills to be successful individuals.

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Our aim is to
Our aim is to
• Help troubled teenagers get back on track
• Help people deal with conflict, stress, and anger
• Discover potential and set goals to reach it
• Help build confidence and social skills
• Help with self-esteem and discipline
• Help improve family dynamic.
This Program
This Program
Is for the purpose of improving in knowledge, maturity, decision-making, leadership and independence, self-sufficiency and more. This is intended to expand thinking patterns, self-image, confidence and experiences by providing an impartial source of support who can listen and understand the challenges you are facing.
Benefits
for parents
Benefits for parents
When a child appears to lash out or react aggressively, they may be battling feelings of worry and fear. Life Skills can help your child to better understand the emotions they are experiencing and how to manage and communicate them, encouraging an easier parent-child relationship. Helping your child develop mature ways to deal with conflict, stress and anger could potentially make family life easier.
Supporting you
Supporting you
We do not stand in as parents, teachers or friends but are there to offer impartial, trustworthy support as individuals can experience difficulties in life on the adventure of growing up and growing older.

Contact us for an assessment.

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Emotional Intelligence
An animated book summary of Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman.
Articles
Self-image What is self-image? It is the picture you have of yourself in your mind. How you show yourself to others and what you think of yourself. A positive self-image is the beginning of healthy thoughts. A low self-image makes you feel terrible about yourself, it makes you hypersensitive to the words of those around you which usually grows into people pleasing. A low self-image has great consequences because you become your own worst enemy. What are your thoughts about yourself? Who is...
Why Therapy Doesn’t Work “ Inevitably a client who enters into therapy is dealing with pain. This pain can either be buried, in progress, or somewhere in-between.” The yellow jacket nest that I mowed over was not forgiving. After trying to carefully manicure the grass around my little rock garden, I made the mistake of bumping one of the rocks with my pushmower, exposing the unseen entrance to the nest and mowing over the top. I was quickly assaulted. Yellow jackets latched onto my feet, legs,...
Managing Emotions for a Happier Life Would you like your relationships at home, at work, your friendships, parents, teachers etc.… to improve? Here are some practical tips on how to keep track of your own and/or your children’s emotions and how to manage it better to improve family life. One of the most important skills to develop is good communication. Communication affects every aspect of our lives and with good communication, family life will drastically improve. In my family, while growing...